As is often the case with mental illness, one of my kids has a dual diagnosis. In layman’s terms that means he has bipolar disorder and addiction issues.

Sadly, he’s using again. This is more common than not, but each time a relapse occurs my husband, Mark, and I have to regroup, re-discuss, and determine where our ability to help ends. There is a fine line between enabling the addict and  supporting the ill.

The up side…we’ve learned innumerable skills and lessons from having been down this road many times before.

We no longer judge, blame, accuse, argue, or despair.

We talk about the realities of the situation, present clear alternatives, and allow Michael, whom we love and adore, to make his own choices.

We have peace despite challenge.

That is a wonderful gift.

Want to talk about it?

Docs often try new or cutting edge medications when treating medication resistant bipolar disorder. These often fall outside the limits of insurance company formularies.

If this happens to you, call the parmaceutical companies directly to ask about free or low-cost medications.

A list of contacts is available through NAMI .

Often, these are the meds that make the difference in a person’s life. Make every effort to follow your doctor’s treatment plan.

Wellness is Worth It!

An interview of Kate at BEA

Watch it. Pass on the link. Tell Oprah.

Let me know what you think.

I receive emails every day from bloggers and folks who’ve read my book. Two stood out this week.

One asked:

“…how much money do you make...blogging, writing, authoring a book, speaking and advocating for the mentally ill?”

It was a little discomforting to admit to him that my ventures actually cost Mark and me thousands of dollars a year.

He responded with the understandable:

“Oh My Gosh! Why do you do this?”

Lots of reasons.

I do it…

for my children’s future. An informed society is a better place for them to live.

for your children’s futures. We should all share what we learn along the path.

because it must be done, and I can.

because it can be done, so I must.

And I do it because of people like Debra, who wrote this week:

“THANK YOU FOR THIS BLOG!!!!!!!

“THANK YOU FOR YOUR BOOK!!!!!!!!!

“You have a wonderful way of helping parents understand mental illness. I learn something every time I log onto your blog.

“You really are making a difference.

“I’m the mother from Colorado who called you one morning regarding my son. You really helped me to understand that he NEEDED to sleep and heal. I kissed him and told him to sleep as long as he needed. It was a beautiful moment for us.

“Have you seen Jill Bolte-Taylor on Oprah or TED.com? I bet your bloggers would love it.

“Thanks Again!!!!

“Debra”

If you were in my shoes, wouldn’t you do this?

Peace and Blessings,

Kate

I recently met a young mother of 4 whose husband has been classified as completely disabled because of his mental illness. In addition, he is not well enough to take on the full daily responsibilities of young children, so she is working part-time, with the help of her parents.

Not long ago, her husband’s doctor changed his medication. His new prescription is not covered by their insurance, and the $550 monthly cost is beyond their means.

I was happy to tell her that most major pharmaceutical companies offer free or subsidized medication to those who cannot afford what is prescribed. Click here for NAMI’s list of participating companies.

Please write to me if you’ve participated in a program like this.

MYTH # 1

…parents will know if their teen is depressed…

Unlike other mental health issues, like panic attacks or mania, depression can be harder to identify. (more…)