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“Eating disorders are complex conditions that can arise from a variety of potential causes. Once started, however, they can create a self-perpetuating cycle of physical and emotional destruction…”

-The National Eating Disorders Association

These are the Facts:

Americans spend over $40 billion a year on weight reduction services and products

Every day, nearly half of American women are on a diet

Every day, 25% of American men are on a diet

50% of 9 and 10-year-old girls claim to feel better about themselves when on a diet

35% of “normal dieters” become pathological dieters. 25% of those develop eating disorders

Age at Onset of Eating Disorders:

•86% report onset of illness by the age of 20
•10% report 10 years or younger
•33% report between ages of 11-15
•43% report between ages of 16-20

Eating Disorders affect large groups of people throughout the United States

5-10 million girls and women have eating disorders
1 Million boys and men have eating disorders
The number of people with eating disorders is three times the number of people with AIDS (664,921 people are living with AIDS)
Eating disorders affect as many people as does schizophrenia  (2.2 million people are living with schizophrenia)

With so many unrealistic images in the media, we fail to appreciate what is normal

*The average American woman is 5′4″ tall and weighs 140 pounds
*The average American model is 5′11″ tall and weighs 117 pounds
*Most fashion models are thinner than 98% of American women
*Almost half of first through third graders want to be thinner
*4 out of 5 ten year olds are afraid of being fat
*4 out of 5 American women dislike their physical form

* SOURCE: Mental Health Matters

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According to the National Institute of Mental Health an estimated 0.5 percent to 3.7 percent of females suffer from anorexia, and an estimated 1.1 percent to 4.2 percent suffer from bulimia, and between 2 percent and 5 percent of Americans experience binge-eating disorder. Among females ages 15-24 with eating disorders, the mortality rate is 12 times higher than the annual death rate due to all causes of death in the general population.

In addition to the radically high death rate, eating patterns of people with these disorders cause serious medical complications including those listed here:

Acid Reflux Disorders
Amenorrhea - Loss of Menstrual Cycle
Arthritis
Bad Circulation
Cancer-Throat, Esophogus
Chronic Fatigue Syndrome
Cramps, Bloating, Constipation, Diarrhea,
Dehydration
Dental Problems, Decalcification of teeth, Erosion of Tooth Enamel, Severe Decay, Gum Disease
Depression
Digestive Difficulties
Disruptions in Blood Sugar Levels
Dry Skin and Hair, Brittle Hair and Nails, Hair Loss
Easily Bruising Skin
Edema
Electrolyte Imbalances
Gastric Rupture
Gastrointestinal Bleeding
Heart Arrhythmias
High Blood Pressure
Hormone Imbalances/Deficiencies
Hyponatremia
Impaired Neuromuscular Function
Incontinence
Infertility
Insomnia
Kidney Infection and Failure
Lanugo
Liver Failure
Low Blood Pressure/Hypotension
Low Platelet Count
Lowered body temperature
Malnutrition
Muscle Atrophy
Osteoporosis
Pancreatitis
Peptic Ulcers
Seizures
Swelling in Face and Cheeks (following self-induced vomiting)
Tearing of Esophagus
Transient (or temporary) Paralysis
Vitamin and Mineral Deficiencies
Weakness and Fatigue

As stated in publications from the National Eating Disorders Association, eating disorders arise from a variety of causes, including social pressure, emotional imbalance, lack of self-esteem and body chemistry. In fact, scientists continue to research biochemical and biological causes of eating disorders, and have identified imbalances in chemicals that control hunger, appetite, and digestion in the brains of some patients with eating disorders. The meaning of these imbalances continues to be studied.

Regardless of the underlying cause, once started eating disorders create a self-perpetuating cycle of physical and emotional destruction. All eating disorders require professional help.

The information below will help you to determine if you or someone you know has an eating disorder. Because of the serious health consequences and difficulties in treatment, early recognition and treatment improve chances for full recovery.

Anorexia Nervosa

Anorexia is a pattern of self-imposed starvation. The causes may be psychological, biological or social, but food itself is not the cause. Early detection and treatment are necessary to prevent permanent damage to the heart, reproductive organs, and other internal organs.It can be recognized by the following behavioral, emotional and physical symptoms:

Behavioral

Preoccupation with food and dieting
Excessive physical activity with the goal of burning calories
Withdrawal from friends and family because of focus on weight loss
Overuse of laxatives to lose weight
Refusal to maintain body weight at or above a minimally normal weight
Intense fear of weight gain or being “fat”
Feeling “fat” or overweight despite dramatic weight loss

Emotional

Lack of self esteem
Depression
Thoughts about suicide
Denial of an underweight condition
Desire to still lose more weight

Physical

Extreme weight loss
Absence of menstruation
Cavities and gum disease
Extreme sensitivity to cold
Hair, nail and skin problems

Bulimia

Bulimia is characterized by a secretive cycle of eating large amounts of food–more than most people would eat in one meal–in short periods of time, then getting rid of the food and calories through vomiting, laxative abuse, or over-exercising. Some of the same symptoms are present as with anorexia, and many anoretics add symptoms of bulimia as an alternative way of controlling weight. In addition to those listed above, symptoms include :

Purchase of large quantities of food
Repeated episodes of binging and purging
Feeling out of control during a binge
Eating beyond the point of comfortable fullness
Self-induced vomiting
Abuse of laxatives, diet pills and diuretics
Excessive exercise
Fasting
Frequent dieting
Extreme concern with body shape
Secretive behavior regarding eating habits
Weight fluctuations
Depression
Denial of the problem
Fear of discovery
Problem with alcohol and drugs

Binge Eating Disorder (also known as Compulsive Overeating)

Binge eating is characterized by periods of uncontrolled, impulsive, or continuous eating beyond the point of feeling comfortably full. While there is no purging, there may be sporadic fasts or repetitive diets and often feelings of shame or self-hatred after a binge. People who overeat compulsively may struggle with anxiety, depression, and loneliness, which can contribute to their unhealthy episodes of binge eating. Body weight may vary from normal to mild, moderate, or severe obesity.

If any of these descriptions fit you or someone you know, seek professional help. For more information, click on the following links:

National Eating Disorders Association

National Institute of Mental Health

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I’ve been quite frank about my family’s experiences as my son struggles with addiction and sobriety. (Of course, this is easier for me than for many because I’m a writer who works under a nom de plume. Many people know my personal identity, but the world at large does not connect all of my family members to our story.)

Because of my openness, I get a lot of phone calls, emails and messages that contain the personal stories of other families with similar challenges. This networking makes all of us feel better — less alone, less guilty, less sad.

By sharing information with one another we are empowered. We learn to take control of our own actions and onuses, and to release our hold on issues and behaviors that are not ours. We disable the enablers within, a key component to personal recovery and maintenance of relationships. We become well.

By talking about mental illness and addiction and the resulting family dynamics, we shed light on these previously shunned and hidden illnesses. We remove the stigma and disseminate facts and solutions. In the long run, the people we love, and society as a whole, will benefit from these sometimes pioneering actions.

If you are silently, secretly struggling with addiction or someone whose behaviors seem addict-like, know that you are not alone. There is help and support. There is not shame. Walk tall. Take advantage.

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I have three children. Two were diagnosed with bipolar disorder when they were seventeen. One of those two is, like a large percentage of people with a serious mental illness, an addict.

My husband and I have supported, sponsored, paid for, participated with and encouraged our son in nearly every type of rehab program available. He continues to make progress, but continues to relapse, too.

Years ago, every relapse seemed devastating. Now, while disappointed, I don’t fall apart. I express my concern and dismay, I stick to my standards, rules and requirements; and I continue to love him completely. He is an addict. I am not. I cannot fix this. I am not responsible for it. There is no blame.

I wish for nothing more than I wish for my son’s sobriety. He truly wants a life free of addiction and all that accompanies that path, that choice. The sad truth is, once addicted to opiates, the challenge to be free of the addiction is monumental and omnipresent. If there was a wand, I would wave it. But there isn’t.

So I do what I’ve counseled many other parents to do: I love him, unconditionally, freely, completely. Long ago I released the notion that I had the right to judge him (or anyone else). When he’s not doing well, I feel sad for him and pray for better days. But I never withhold love and support.

I never want him to feel alone in the world.

I will always love him.

He is my son.

He is my beautiful son.